There are two spots in the home that represent family.
- One is the Health Family and Community Midpoint located at the center of the left wall of the home (when seen from the street).
- The other is the Dining Area.
Dining areas provide a lot of information for a Feng Shui consultant trained in the Nine Steps to Feng Shui® System.
Many homes have a daily informal dining area and a formal dining area.
In these cases the informal dining area provides information on how the person relates to their current family, and the formal dining area shows the baggage they carry from their family of origin.
Americans Don’t Have Enough Family Meals
Some of the worst habits of Americans regarding eating and dining areas are extremely hurtful to a family unit.
- Sharing meals sitting on high bar stools facing a kitchen counter, as if you were hanging out with strangers in a bar.
- Always eating meals while watching TV, especially the news.
- Allowing smart phones and gaming devices at the table.
- The worst: not even eating together anymore.
It is not for nothing that the number one predictor of kids’ success in college is whether families eat dinner together.
When parents have the presence of mind to ask that the family eat dinner together most nights, they usually have the presence of mind to ask that other things that are good for the children be done. It also means that they rely less on drive through junk food.
Kids Don’t Talk When You Say “Let’s Talk”
Most kids, especially teenagers, don’t talk when you say let’s talk. They clam up, answer with monosyllables, grunts or shrugs.
It is during family meals that teenagers open up in conversation. Parents who do not share dinners with their kids, tend to know their kids less.
At the Castaneda Household
In our home, no one leaves the table until everyone is done with dinner, because part of a successful family meal is the conversation that happens during and after the meal.
In the years before our tiger cat Pichagui left his 19 year old body (pretty old for a cat!) he acquired the habit of always joining us for dinner. He would take turns sitting with each of us, smell our food, and then demand a treat. He would stay with us the whole meal, and beyond. Pichagui understood the importance of family meals.