In a previous post I talked about how the accumulated tension in a love relationships always looks for an outlet, and how this outlet can be healthy, or unhealthy.
In this post I am going to share with you what are some features in a couple’s home that alert me to the presence of accumulated tension. I call these “argument breeders.” These are sources of mild irritation, some of them also indicate that one or the two partners have “dropped the ball:”
1. An entryway or hallway that is too narrow or constricted.
These are places for potential collisions. If two people are trying to leave in a hurry at the same time there can be competition for the space available.
2. Doors that open against one another so that their door knobs hit each other.
These produce annoying sounds and vibrations, they are also a symbol of clashing personalities and of competition between the partners.
3. Doors that squeak.
Again, these produce annoying noises. It also shows neither partner is taking the responsibility to fix this very easy to solve problem. Is this attitude also apparent in other aspect of their lives?
4. Drawers that get stuck, are too full or do not close properly.
Mild causes of irritation on a good day. The day one partner is suffering from a migraine, that may be the day that drawer ends up broken on the floor.
5. In the kitchen, having the stove exactly opposite the sink, or being right next to it.
This is considered in Feng Shui an element conflict between fire and water. Water puts out fire. Symbolically this translates into the couple trying to put out each others ideas and dreams.
6. Furniture with sharp edges where people get hurt when they aren’t paying attention.
If a couple allows furniture that is potentially dangerous in their home, what else might they be allowing that is not healthy for their relationship?
7. Artwork with violent themes or content, this includes abstract art when the lines are too chaotic or form sharp angles.
These create an ambiance of danger for the unconscious mind, and keep people “on guard.”
8. Cabinet doors, closet doors and drawers that are left opened, toilet lid not put down.
Cabinet doors or drawers left open are potential hazards. The toilet lid up shows lack of respect for the female side of the relationship.
9. Too much white (metal) or green (wood, tree) in the master bedroom, but even more so green and white combinations. These colors are symbolic of the elements that hurt or weaken the earth element, which is essential for healthy relationships (these elements are wood and metal), and therefore should be avoided in the bedroom.
10. Excessive clutter produced or retained by only one of the partners.
This can be a sign that only one partner continues to work on his or her own issues, while the other one refuses to let go of the past or to confront their inner conflicts.
How Feng Shui Helps
Feng Shui helps, first and foremost, by pointing out these kinds of issues to the couple and bringing them to their awareness. The recognition that a problem exists is the first step to solve that problem. Then, Feng Shui can help you make small changes in your home that reflect the changes you want to see in your life. When changes happen in the physical environment, change becomes easier in the emotional and mental realms.